Birth story

Throughout Friday night I slept as usual but was aware of some painful braxton hicks type contractions. I had had these before and it all fizzled to nothing, so thought nothing of it. They sort of hung around Saturday morning, and in the back of my mind I thought I had best keep an eye on them, but there was nothing obvious happening.

It was Finns Wiggles concert day (and Js birthday!) that he looks forward to ALL year, I was so worried I would go into labour during in it and have trouble getting to J and not ruining things for Finn. Was a major stress for weeks for me. I got my sister to come and spend the afternoon with me while the boys were gone so at least I wouldn't be alone should something happen!

She arrived soon after they left and we sat watching comedy shows on foxtel, eating yummy dip and bickies and giggling like sisters can! Was a good afternoon but as it wore on, the contractions became stronger and I was now cringing through them. They were irregular though, some 15 minutes apart, some 20 and some 30 and were short in length about 15-20 seconds mostly. So I was debating if I was in labour at all or prelabour and not entirely sure what was happening. It was a wait and see situation! My sister was nervous we'd end up having to do the logistical nightmare thing of finding Josh and so on.. but they just were not obvious enough to me, though I guess deep down I knew it was a bit different. I think I didnt want to get my hopes up though!

At about 6pm, J called to say they were grabbing dinner and were about 30 minutes away. Finn jumped on the phone to tell me that Anthony had come and said hello to them at the concert �€“ Anthony is Finns favourite wiggle so this was a HUGE deal but Finn told me it was his LEAST favourite part of the concert. LOL. A bit overwhelming for him I think!!! So I sent my sister on her way home and just as the boys got home, I had a show.

I said to Josh, I think this is it... And we sat down to eat. I got halfway through and thought no.. feel sick... so I called the hospital and said we're an hour away, when should I come in? Midwife said when contractions are 8 minutes apart. Mine were still 20 minutes apart then, so I called Mum and let her know things were moving and could she leave now to come and be with Finn please. She was aware I had been having contractions so was ready to leave, she is an hour away. By now it was 7pm.

Somewhere in the next 30 minutes, it all took off at a seriously breakneck speed. I went from cringe worthy, 20 minute apart contractions to toe curling really groan through 7 minutes apart contractions almost instantly. We called Dad to ask when Mum had left and he said only 5-10 minutes ago and we panicked. No way we could wait an hour for her, so we called the ever reliable heroine of the story �€“ Megan to the rescue. She dropped everything and came over in 20 minutes flat and we bolted out the door, contractions now 5-6 minutes apart and REALLY painful.I think it was really considerate that RJ waited until the boys were home from Finns special afternoon and then went for it the second they walked in the door!

I was gripping the handle of the car (the one thats at the top of the door?!) with full strength and pretty much screaming through every contraction and J was driving at 140kms an hour in pissing down rain �€“ both of us pretty much shitting ourselves now... By the time we were about 20 minutes into our 50 minute trip to the hospital I was screaming that I needed to push and he had to pull over and call an ambulance. So poor J had the mobile out swearing at it to work whilst driving in that rain �€“ too fast �€“ and looking for somewhere to stop. We were 2 minutes from the big BP/rest stop at Calder Park Raceway so we pulled in there and the ambulance was ordered. The 000 operator stayed with Josh on the phone until the ambulance arrived. Not sure how long it took but it felt like years. I was absolutely screaming every contraction and J was helping me breathe and relaying everything to the 000 operator who made him check each time if he could see the baby coming. Poor Josh. Everytime he looked with panic terrified he would see baby and need to deliver her but he didn't! His quote about that time is - what I have seen can never be unseen... - I have empathy, it was not pretty down there! My waters had broken at that point too - I was on a towel thank god! One that is now burned and gone never again to be seen or used... shudder...

The operator was getting him to find something to wrap the baby in if it came and telling me it was okay to push etc. I cant erase from my mind, the look on Joshs face throughout that wait - just a mix of sheer terror, stress, anxiety, fear... all of it. Just horrible. It really was scary.

Eventually he said to me I can see the ambulance lights, theyre coming... I was just saying I cant do this it hurts too much!!! And crying and screaming through every pain. I was not brave, not even a bit. I was so pissed off that I was nowhere near an epidural its not funny. J was great though, coaching me and encouraging me through each pain - Id say they were 3min apart then.

Most humiliating moment of my life was going from car to ambulance bed, naked in the middle of a busy BP/Maccas reststop. Take a bow Kell, everyone can see your bits. Charming!! Actually ambos were quick at covering me and I didnt give a rats arse because I was hurting too badly.

Ambulance was off and the only difference now was I was had happy gas - the green whistle! - im not sure it did much but it gave me a focus each contraction anyway. I swear it took YEARS to get to the hospital. I was swearing and the ambo was saying just pant. I was saying I CANT *^%$ING PANT I HAVE TO PUSH!!! He was quite unphased. laugh.gif

I just kept screaming and moaning through the pains and pushing because I had no choice, I had to push, it was overwhelming. Im sure they thought I was such a weakling but oh my lord did it hurt!!!! I heard the guy in the back with me say to the driver 'pull in here at emergency' and I thought he meant pull over because baby was coming out because I could feel the burning and change in the feel of the pain and knew it was about to happen. What he actually was saying was that we had reached the hospital and were pulling into the emergency department! Right as we were pulling in, RJ came sliding out and the paramedic caught her.

We stopped and I was just laying there wanting to know where J was and hoping he was right behind but he had lost the ambulance (they were flying by then through red lights etc). So I didnt see him for another 15-20 minutes. The midwives appeared at the ambulance bay since the paramedic had radioed ahead that we were coming. They cut the cord and RJ had cried almost immediately and was put on my chest. I vaguely remember asking if she was a girl and being told she was. I was laying there half out of it, saying silly things like 'i cant believe I just did that. Doesnt this only happen on tv?!' I dont think anyone even answered me, I was just so overwhelmed and shocked. I started to get the shakes about then.

They wheeled us in to a labour ward and tagged me and babe and reminded me I still had to deliver the placenta which I did soon after without drama. J came flying in all wild eyed but excited and got to have a cuddle with his new daughter and stealer of his birthday! He said he had passed the paramedics as he came in and he knew from his bouncing step and beaming face that she had arrived on route, LOL. He wasnt too upset at having missed her arrival, was grateful I think, that we had made the right call and gotten them in. Too close for comfort that he almost had to do it himself.

I was checked for tearing etc but was all fine, no stitches needed, and aside from the shaking (shock) was fine and needed no attention at all, as was Rory-Jane. She fed like a champion and we elected to go home the next morning asap. At one point, at about midnight, J and I looked at each other, our faces must have reflected the others same state of mind, just stunned and overwhelmed. J said its just not in sync, my head feels all odd. I said its because it was all so fast, our brains are still catching up! It was a weird feeling for sure. We called a few people, my poor Mum.. rofl... I called her about ten and said umm.. shes here.. Mum was like ALREADY?! I said yes.. back of an ambulance.. poor mum was most confused and shocked!

The hospital staff loved the story, RJ became the ambulance baby, and apparently the ambos were excited to have been involved in something positive and a genuine emergency for once. Was a big night for everyone!!!! She weighed 8.035 pound or 3728g (Finn was 3330g at 2 weeks earlier gestation).

We are both doing well, afterpains are a bitch, but she feeds well and Finn is absolutely besotted with her. He goes and chats to her while shes asleep and holds her little hand and each time her fingers do that baby grip on his hand, his little face lights up and he grins and says 'she wants to hold my hand!!' I overheard him telling her how happy he was to finally have another kid in his family. Precious... and last night he got upset at bedtime because he wanted to stay with her. I was reminding him she would be here in the morning... and every morning forever now!

For me, I cant believe I am sitting here babe asleep beside me at last. All that fighting, all that stubborness has paid off and we made it! Shes really there squawking and wriggling and snuffling. I cant believe it but god I am excited. I sent an sms to J when I woke up the day after she was born that said �€œI had forgotten how good this is... - its better than I remembered, hoped or dreamed. She was worth every single second of that hell, without a doubt. Yes im tired, sore and have no idea of some of the struggles that will be ahead, but there is no question I am so glad we did this!!!!!

5 comments:

Kat 30 January 2009 at 10:00 am  

Oh wow Kell, congratulations and welcome to RJ, what an extraordinary birth story!!!

Chantelle 30 January 2009 at 7:17 pm  

Beautiful Kell. Welcome RJ. x

foofie 31 January 2009 at 10:47 pm  

oooh wow! I have been checking feverously since your last post to see if your baby had arrived and am so glad to see that she has! :D

What a birth story! I did have to LOL @ J's description of pre-ambulance arriving, I clearly remember D emailing (no doubt) his description of the birth process for DD stating that it was 'burnt into the retinas of his eyes' :o LOL

So happy Kel, what a long journey. What a result though! :D

Bec 8 February 2009 at 1:51 pm  

What a beautiful story hon. RJ was definitely in a hurry to join the family :)

Kirsten 8 February 2009 at 2:14 pm  

Oh Kel congratulations! I've been waiting and waiting to hear this good news, so glad you have your daughter with you now. And what a lovely name! And WHAT a birth story! That will be a story for her to dine out on ;)